Are you dating or have dated a Capricorn man? If you’re wondering why he’s pulled away, disappeared or distanced himself from you then read on to find out the strange ways of the Capricorn male.
I’m not a male but a female Capricorn. I hope that through this page, you’ll get a little perspective on your guy and it helps you to understand him better.
Table of Contents
- Capricorn Men Need Space
- Poll: Are You Chasing Your Capricorn Man?
- A Good Rule of Thumb for Dating a Capricorn Man
- I Don’t Want to Play Games!
- Why Is He Distancing Himself After Getting So Close?
- Another Reason He Might Pull Away
- Should I Chase Him
- The Rubber-band Theory
- Will He Come Back?
- Beware of the Unevolved Capricorn Male
- What Should You Do If Your Cappy disappears on You for a Few Days?
Capricorn Men Need Space
You might be wondering, “Why is he ignoring me?” In general, the Capricorn man does not want or need to be smothered. This guy needs his alone time, he needs time to himself and time to recharge his batteries and wants to ponder and process.
So if he has pulled away or distanced himself then you should do the same. Mirror him and his actions, this is not the time to start calling him like crazy and asking him why he’s ignoring you and asking him what his deal is.
Let him be. Be cool, confident and go about your life and keep as busy as possible and go out with your friends and have some fun. It’s important to keep a level head with this guy.
Poll: Are You Chasing Your Capricorn Man?
A Good Rule of Thumb for Dating a Capricorn Man
Let this man lead you. He’s not one that you should chase after! If you DO find yourself chasing him then you need to take a step back from the situation. It is bad to start chasing a man, especially a Capricorn man. Capricorn men are the mountain goats and can scale great heights of the mountain. He needs a challenge and you chasing him is NOT a challenge. Stop it.
I Don’t Want to Play Games!
This is NOT about game playing, this is about giving this man time to realize that he has feelings for you. He needs to feel invested in the relationship. These men are very slow to catch feelings, so slow that you might get bored or tired of it and bail. So you must, must, must give him time.
If you are texting him, calling him and not even allowing him to do his job he is less invested, less interested. This is not a challenge for him. So what should you do?
You need to let him be the man and do the work to win you. In other words, let him pursue you. There is nothing wrong with lightly encouraging him, but it does not need to be done all the time!
Why Is He Distancing Himself After Getting So Close?
If you’ve come to the point where he’s pulling away after getting close (from being intimate or sharing his feelings) then let him pull away! He needs space and time to think and do his thing.
This is incredibly important. You do not want to start blowing up his phone/going to his place uninvited when he’s gone MIA. For whatever reason, he’s decided that he needs time away. It might be that he needs to think things over, feels uncomfortable with the new situation and needs to get himself under control. You will need to let him be and mirror his actions.
You might also want to read: What to Do When a Man Pulls Away, for some extra advice.
Another Reason He Might Pull Away
There is something you should know about all Capricorns and this is a definite possibility as far as the men go. They can be INSECURE! Capricorns love to be in control of situations and it’s hard to let their guard down, it takes A LOT of time to trust and to know for sure that someone will not hurt them. You just have to be patient with this man.
Sometimes he will need to be encouraged a bit more times than others. Please don’t get me wrong here. I don’t mean that you should do all the work and calling and planning of dates. NO! I mean that you need to complement him, let him know you enjoy his company. For instance, after a date you can let him know you had a wonderful time with him and hope to see him soon.
After he’s asked you out a few times, now it’s your turn to invite him somewhere, like the movies or dinner. This lets him know you really do like him.
There is nothing wrong with this. Now, if he doesn’t respond to that, then you have your answer. He’s not interested. But if he responds then you know he is, indeed, interested. He needs to be encouraged.
Should I Chase Him
You should never chase a Capricorn man. This bears repeating, don’t ever chase. These men have been know to be very slow moving and even slower to form an emotional bond with women. You may think that he wants you to chase him but don’t let his hesitation and slow nature confuse you. He is thinking things over, Caps can be very much in their head and it can take time for them to come to terms with how they will proceed. These are very cautious men.
You chasing him and making yourself available at all times is not going to help. Be strong confident, friendly and wait for him to come to you.
The Rubber-band Theory
If your Capricorn male has pulled away, disappeared or is unresponsive then, lady, it’s time for you to do the same. This is difficult but it’s imperative to not initiate when has pulled away like this. When he has distanced himself, the more you call/text him, the further he could move away from you.
If you go wild and call him repeatedly, What happens is that he now has his validation that you are in deeper than he is and the mystery has worn off. He doesn’t have a reason to keep pursuing you.
But.. if you mirror him and don’t call/text/visit him then he starts to wonder about you. He may wonder why you have not called him and asked him where he’s been. When you fail to do this he gets incredibly curious and will snap right back to you like a rubber-band to see how you are doing. He sees that his job is not done and he needs to keep pursuing you to win you.
Will He Come Back?
If he’s disappeared and never contacts you then he was not right for you and most likely was not a suitable candidate. Don’t feel bad about this. There is nothing wrong with you, he just was not the one for you.
At least this way, you have weeded him out. You want a real man that will pursue you genuinely and is not afraid of commitment.
Note: I may write an ebook on this topic, head over to The Capricorn Man- A Guide for Women, if you’re interested in this topic.
Beware of the Unevolved Capricorn Male
Capricorns can be very devoted and loving partners but if they are not evolved or just not ready for a relationship then it will not work. Some Caps that are unevolved can/may come off very strong in the beginning of a relationship. Watch out for this and don’t let his eagerness or sweet words overwhelm you. It can be very disarming when it comes at you at first.
This is not to say that he’s fooling you, on the contrary, just do not let your emotions get the best of you in the very beginning of the relationship. When he catches wind of your feelings too soon, it can put you at a disadvantage. Keep calm, cool and collected.
Move slow and don’t let his excitement push you into moving quickly. Slow and steady really does win the race.
What Should You Do If Your Cappy disappears on You for a Few Days?
If you liked this article you may also want to check out The Capricorn Man- A Guide for Women if you’re interested in this topic.1